Our hearts are so precious. They need to be cherished.
Posted by Fiona Nevile in Cottage tales | 112 comments
Inca getting bored with being photographed
Danny and I are splitting up. It’s very painful and I’m feeling so sad and desolate.
We have been together for 15 years. We were always good friends. He has never ceased to be a fun, intelligent and charming companion. He has shared so much knowledge. He always surprised and entertained me.
He also loved my Min Pin dogs. Scorned by so many in the past.
Unfortunately physically I could never be the slim, svelte lady that he really wished to have on his arm. And there’s the rub for both of us.
It has been hard for me to look in a mirror for years.
In the end I think that we both realised that we had find separate paths.
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Fiona, I’m so sorry too. The person who advised you not to shut yourself away was absolutely right and I hope you’ll feel able to go out and see friends. One isn’t one’s own best companion, sometimes. And internet friends, some of whom have become my real life friends too, are some of the warmest and most supportive people I know, so do try to keep on blogging, even if it’s just to post a few pictures when you don’t feel like writing. Love, Zoe
Fiona, I’m so sorry to hear your news. I have always enjoyed reading your writing and love the person who comes across from it. You deserve happiness. I’m sure that once you have adjusted to life without Danny that there will be experiences and people who will bring you just that, in the meantime have a huge virtual hug from me.
Ah Fiona I’m so sorry to hear this news. Life & love & relationships are about so much more than outward appearance. We all get older and our physical attributes deteriorate but it’s what within that counts. Although many of us have never met you it’s obvious from your blogs that you’re caring, funny, intelligent,loyal and so many other things and these are what’s important. It’s very hard for a woman to know she isn’t of an ideal weight or size but who would want a beautiful slim partner who has no compassion or personality. This is bound to throw your confidence but please remember the real you is a beautiful person and that’s what matters. I deliberately haven’t read any other comments yet but I’ll bet when I go back to read them everyone else will have similar sentiments. I hope all the joy you have given to others through your blog comes back to you in the form of support now when you need it most. And I’m sure you wouldn’t want Danny villified so all I’ll say is ‘Has he looked inthe mirror recently? if so does he see George Clooney or even Sean Connery looking back at him?” Lots of love for a speedy recovery of your broken heart.
What a lovely idea from Terry. Do think about it Fiona as we would all like to give a little back, we have had so much from you and it is a very good way for us to be there for you. xxxxx
What a lovely idea from Terry. Do think about it Fiona as we would all like to give a little back, we have had so much from you and it is a very good way for us to be there for you. xxxxx
Very sad to read your news. Very few of us are the tall, slim figure of dreams. I wish you healing and send virtual hugs.
I have just finished my annual batch of ‘Fiona’s Fantastic’ wild plum relish. Its a bit more tart than usual, really need to let this batch sit for a while… Today I realised that I put in only half the quantity of plums!!
Before I made the relish I was feeling a bit despondant as I am heavier than I would like to be. Cooking cranked my mood up a bit. Then I read your post and I realised how silly I was, being sad because I didn’t look like I wanted people to see me!!
Fiona, I am sad for you while you are adjusting to life post Danny, BUT I only know you from the site and I (and everyone else I’m sure) know there is a lot more to niceness than being than slim and svelte.
You’re great x Ann
Virtual hugs and cake are great but I’ve been thinking is there a way we could in some way give a little back to you – honestly you’re in credit with all the great stuff you’ve posted on your blog.
I wondered if you would let your readers “hijack” your blog with recipes for the soul – recipes that bring some ounce of joy to otherwise chaotic and dark times. Even if just one dish makes one of the days ahead a little easier it will be worth it!
Tx
Ah that explains the silence. I’ve missed you. There’s a lot invested in partnerships and it’s always sad to see them finished. All the very best and bugger anyone who thinks physical appearance is a true measure of the real person! Apologies for being blunt.
Another lurker popping in to wish you well. I too was quietly worried about where you had gone, if you were seriously ill etc. You were missed by a lot of people it seems!
You are stronger than you feel, and will come through this. Take your time, do your grieving, cuddle the Min Pins and with the start of spring let each snowdrop, crocus and daffodil give you the hope to help you grow into your new phase of your life. You’ll get there.
Fiona, it is very sad you and Danny have broken up, and it will take time to get over, and some days will be bad, but there will also be good days. Suddenly you will have come through the bads times without even noticing (believe me). Love and hugs to you and Danny.