Our hearts are so precious. They need to be cherished.
Posted by Fiona Nevile in Cottage tales | 112 comments
Inca getting bored with being photographed
Danny and I are splitting up. It’s very painful and I’m feeling so sad and desolate.
We have been together for 15 years. We were always good friends. He has never ceased to be a fun, intelligent and charming companion. He has shared so much knowledge. He always surprised and entertained me.
He also loved my Min Pin dogs. Scorned by so many in the past.
Unfortunately physically I could never be the slim, svelte lady that he really wished to have on his arm. And there’s the rub for both of us.
It has been hard for me to look in a mirror for years.
In the end I think that we both realised that we had find separate paths.
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We are both so sorry to hear this news. It is hard for both of you, so remember we still regard you as friends. Both of you.
Oh what a shame it had to end.
Dear Gottakint and Seth
We both regard you as friends too! Good friends.
Yes I agree with you that it’s a shame that it had to end. I heard about the ‘fat’issue ten years ago and I probably should have moved on there and then but I couldn’t let D go.
All is not lost. It’s been a good learning curve for both of us and maybe our friendship will survive.
Great big hugs to both of you xXx
Hi Rae Mond
So good to hear from you! How’s it going over there or have you moved back here?
Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment 🙂
I am so sorry to hear this. I wish you each the best possible future, and send love to you both.
Thank you so much for your comment. D is coming back for a sorting out day tomorrow and he’ll be so pleased to read it too.
Hi Fiona although I am a regular reader of your blogs I have never commented before today. I was shocked and saddened to read about you and Danny and I wish you both well in whatever you decide to do. It will take a while but you will feel better in time, my heart goes out to you both.
Dear Jenny
Thank you so much for your comment.
I think that probably we’re both quite shocked about what happened too.
Thank you again. Your support is much appreciated.
I’m sorry, Fiona. I’m so very sorry.
Oh Tamar
Your comment made me cry. But tears are good. Recently I read that they release toxins so that the one that sobs is feels better and looks better! Feeling better I can add an instant check mark to but looking better? Red eyes and puffy eyelids have never paraded on a catwalk.
Meanwhile everyone in the village that doesn’t read my blog believes that I have a heavy cold.
Thanks for dropping by, so much appreciated.
That’s hard. I hope it wasn’t the strain of the festivities that provoked it. Best wishes and hopes for you both for the future.
Hello Manda
Christamas was good to us this year. We had a happy one.
I now realise that this had been brewing for a long time.
Thank yu so much for your good wishes. Let me give you a very big virtual hug right now.
Fiona
I echo all that has already been said. My heart is with you both.
Dear Audrey
I often think of the time that I first met you, wearing walking boot and with your beautiful daughter.
You had made comments on the blog and there you were standing on my doorstep at the very first Cottage Smallholder summer party!
I was delighted to have the opportunity to meet you and your daughter. We relished your spices for months.
That’s the great thing about blogging. It brings people together from all over the world. It makes connections and builds relationships. Even though we’d never met, when I opened the front door and saw you standing there, I already had met you and was delighted to welcome you both into our home.
I love the old fashioned ways. The fact that you selected and ground the spices that you gave to us. I also love all this new technology – without it I would never had met you.
I’m so sad to hear you are both unhappy Fiona, I hope you can sort things out to go your own way and remain friends, 15 years is a long time together and my heart goes it to you both.
Hi Janet
This was a bit of a nightmare for years and then it sort of settled down. Too much past angst. Still adore Danny, miss him so much that it hurts but I reckon that we’d better on our own. Sometimes agreeing on separate paths is by far the best way forward. Less lonely in the long run.
Sending much love Fiona. I echo so many of the above thoughts. You can never make others happy unless you are making yourself happy, and that requires putting yourself and your needs first sometimes. We can’t make this better for you, but you know there are many of us who would try. After years of reading your trials, good and bad, you are a part of people’s lives. I truly hope you and Danny can come out the other side of this with that friendship. Hugs, love and light to you both xx
Hi Vanessa
I agree totally with you – you can never love until you love yourself. I thought that I did. But there are so many levels to love that I now realise that at the deepest level I probably didn’t make the grade. The family foundations were very shaky. So it so easy to try to build houses on sand.
My brother, sister and I were deeply abused as children.
However My big brother has made a happy family with wife, children and grandchildren happy and excited to spend time together. I have never in my life looked forward to any family get together as it’s always fraught with difficulties and a war zone after the event. I take off my hat to him as he was always the one that was locked in his room for hours for ‘being bad’. He was never bad. Just full of energy. My brother is one of the kindest people that I have ever met in my life.
So sad to hear your news Fiona, You are so brave having to tell us all. With Love and best wishes for future happiness and contentment to you both xxxx
Hello Dawn
Thank you for your comment. I’m actually quite a private person when things go wrong and it was hard to write this post.
However, If I’m a blogger I have to continue and explain my absence for so long. Blogging is not just about the writer. In fact it’s the readers that make a blog live. And I’m so pleased that real living people have hung on for the past five months interested to know what was happening.
Perhaps this mess is a good thing. I’m already begining to feel excited about working in the garden. The days are getting longer here in the UK and that means the start of the growing season in a month or so.
I miss Danny so much but there are distractions and perhaps the split was for the best.